Actually, different things work for different women. One thing that makes a big difference is you need to relax before you begin to masturbate, and you should be aroused (feeling like you need to touch yourself or you feel like pressing your vulva against something to make it feel better). So for now try doing this:
When you have at least 2 hours, take a relaxing bath. Dry yourself slowly, paying attention to your breasts and inner thighs. Notice how the towel feels there and rub them a little extra, looking in the mirror as you do.
Now, lay down on your back without your clothes, of course, bend your knees and open your thighs to make your vulva easily accessible. Now take some deep breaths and touch your face, your lips, softly, touch your arms, rub softly, touch your legs and tummy gently pressing and rubbing, do not touch your clitoris or your vulva at all, yet. Touch your breasts, not the nipples yet, hold your breasts and breathe deep and slow. The deep slow breathing will keep you relaxed. During the time you are preparing to masturbate and even after you actually begin your masturbation, it is important to keep your tummy relaxed and keep your orgasm muscle relaxed (its the muscle you use to stop the flow when you are peeing) Don't squeeze it unless I tell you to.
NOw run your hands down your body to your tummy and thighs, inside your thighs, feel the soft skin there and avoid touching your vulva. At this point you probably feel like you need to touch your clitoris. DON'T. That is a NO NO.
But you can run your fingers along the outside of your outer labia, and rub a finger lightly on your perinnium, between your vagina and your anus. Spend some time there, rub, press gently, rub, press hard, rub, you get the idea. Breathe deep and slow the whole time. Don't forget that. If you gasp or feel your body jerk or tighten at times, thats ok, just stop a few seconds, then continue. I hope your clit is aching for some attention by now. Leave it alone, don't touch it yet.
Pull your outer labia open. rub 2 fingers over your small inner labia, feeling the rigid and probably wet smoothness, If this feels good to you sexually, stay there a few minutes, fondling your breasts with the other hand, you can brush your nipples now, pinch one lightly and continuue doing what feels good to your outer and inner labia, and your perinnium.
Press above your clitoris, press your tummy and rub your hands down and around your clitoris.
Don't touch it.
If you feel your heart racing and your breathing is quickened and may a little ragged, and you are wanting bad to touch your clitoris, pull the hood back, and from side to side, play with the hood of your clitoris and get some wetness from the opening of your vagina and spread it over your clitoris and rub, press, pull, lift it, do it over and over, do it softly , do it hard, do it very slow, do it fast, and keep returning to the things that feel best to you, that feels like it is meeting your sexual need.
After a minute or so, if you haven't reached orgasm, tighten your left thigh muscles and your left buttocks, hold it a second or 2, then do the same with your right buttocks and thigh, relax breathe deep, do it again as you keep masturbating, pleasuring your clitoris and your entire vulva and holding and squeezing your breasts and rubbing your lower tummy , thrust your hips if you need to, as if you are having sex with someone. At some point, maybe before you get here, your body should go into orgasm, out of your control. You may experience contractions in your vagina and anus, clitoral spasms, body jerks, noises in your throat. Any or all of these are outward signs of your orgasm but none of them are as thrilling or as satisfying as what you are feeling inside your body. It should be a blessed sweet release, a satisfying of sexual need.
Print this and take it to the bed with you. Hope you are able to satisfy yourself.
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